This reminds me of what I wrote in my submission to CAHS Assessment on Autism although I'm not nearly as eloquent as Autistic Science Person. They have a great website here and are also a great follow on Twitter @AutSciPerson
When I worked at the federal government my manager announced to everyone that I was a troublemaker. Later I found out he was objecting to my tone of voice... although I gave good feedback his interpretation of what I really meant based on my tone led him to discount my feedback as troublemaking. Having my manager think I was a troublemaker and telling that to everyone else in the office was devastating to me. I took my job very seriously and always tried to do my best.
Here's the article Neurotypicals: Listen to Our Words, Not Our Tone